Hi, my name is Donna Taylor. I am 37 years old and I am a life coach.
My journey has been full of ups and downs over the years and I wanted to tell you about some of them.
I was physically and mentally abused by my Dad when he and my Mum were married. He liked to drink and didn’t understand relationships or how to interact with children. Dad was later diagnosed as Bi-Polar which explained a lot. Unfortunately, he did develop Alzheimer’s in his later years. I became the main contact for decisions on his care and I did forgive him mostly. He was still my Dad and despite a sometimes, tempestuous relationship, I loved him to the end and I was devastated when he passed away two years ago.
I was sexually abused between the ages of 13 and 16. I told no-one for fifteen years because I was led to believe that the person would harm my younger brother if I spoke up. When it did come out in a flood of emotions, I entered therapy to deal with my feelings and learn healthy boundaries within relationships.
I was divorced by the time I was 30. I discovered that my now ex-husband was on gay dating websites and had been messaging several men. By the third incident and my third miscarriage, I could no longer live a lie. I finally spoke out and left him.
Much of my life has been clouded by having to keep secrets. I had to learn to speak my feelings and to be honest. It did leave a lot of anger, mostly at myself but I have come to realise that it was not my fault.
When Dad passed away, I became ill with depression and anxiety. I had forever suffered with stress and I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia about fifteen years ago. I took time off work and I returned when I started to feel better but eventually the anxiety returned. So last year for the sake of my sanity, I left my job. I was in a quandary ‘what am I going to do with my life now?’ I was the person that everyone else came to for advice and a listening ear, so I considered counselling.
Having been through so much, I realised that leaving people’s issues at work would be just too difficult. A friend of mine mentioned life coaching. I registered for a free two-day foundation course. I was hooked! It was perfect, I would be working with people and helping them to move forward with their lives. People’s pasts do play a part but with the right tools and techniques, it is possible to help the person to reframe the beliefs from the past.
Having been coached and acted as coach with fellow students, I actually can’t believe how far I have come. So much has happened for me this year alone! I set myself what I had considered to be lofty goals. I have passed my driving test and bought my own car, I have written a book. I am still trying to get that published but I am working on it! I have set up my coaching business and I will complete my diploma this year. I have started writing about women that inspire me. I have met some amazing people along the way, 2018 has been quite the year and I cannot wait to see what 2019 brings.
I want to inspire and empower women to take back their lives when they’ve been through difficult circumstances!
If you would like to change something in your life, please take a look at my website hatsofflifecoaching.co.uk or you can message me via my Facebook Page Hats Off Life Coaching.
Hope you have a great 2019.