This is a guest post from Jenni who writes a family lifestyle blog, Chilling with Lucas. Jenni shares her experiences of how to improve your self-esteem.

When it comes to your self-worth and self-esteem, there’s just one opinion that should really matter, your opinion of yourself. Easier said than done? Do you often turn out to be your own harshest critic, or let other people’s opinions carry too much weight in your life? Here’s how to turn that around.

A young girl that is standing in the grass

Ditch the Comparison

A lot of us are influenced and affected by the comparison cycle more than we’d care to admit, and quite frankly, it is actually hard not to feel bad about ourselves when we’re thrown pictures of too-good-to-be-true holidays, homes, relationships and lives on our social media channels.

A simple way to get through this is to accept, embrace and love your life, just the way it is, understanding that if it is too good to be true, it probably is.

Practise Mindfulness

By simply being more aware of everything that you do, the voices that you listen to and the emotions you feel, you’ll be able to identify them better.

This will, in turn, help you develop a more positive mindset, limit your negative self-talk and in turn, improve your self-esteem.

Be Nice to Yourself

This one is really important, we all do so much that we often forget about ourselves. Make a conscious effort to be kind to yourself, pat yourself on the back when you do something good, and challenge any negative thoughts that come to your mind. This may be a bit hard at first, but like everything else, practice makes perfect.

Channel your Inner Rock Star

Each one of us has our own strengths and weaknesses, and if you’re paying too much attention to the weaknesses, you probably know why your self-esteem is going downhill. Recognise the moments that make you feel strong and confident. Hold a more realistic image of yourself, and whenever you feel bad, channel your inner rock star version!

Ditch Perfection

Forcing yourself too hard to attain that set level of perfection in your head is sure to go horribly wrong. You’ll feel burned out and exhausted, and it’ll all take a toll on your self-esteem.

Remind yourself that you’re human and you’re bound to make mistakes, and that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up about it.

Choose Happiness

In all of the things that you do every day, try to do more of those that bring you happiness. Consciously choosing happiness can really bring a positive change in your life, even if it is something as simple as reading a book or taking a nice, long bath.

Doing these things can help you feel a lot better, and will boost your self esteem too.

Take Charge

Surrendering to your circumstances is a sure way to make yourself feel lowly. Instead, change things around and take charge of yourself and your life.

Focus on parts of your life that you can actually change, and you’ll feel your self-esteem shoot up. Another post you might like is this one about how to check and improve your child’s self-esteem

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  1. Asking myself the most profound thing I learnt is a very deep and expansive question, but for the sake of time I’ll just say this;
    I learnt that one nice word or comment can leave lasting change on peoples own self-esteem/confidence/whatever you’d like to say.

  2. Not sure if this is the right thread to post on but one negative thought I had today was “I mostly hate myself” which I replaced with “my creativity” which really REALLY helped my mood I was dancing on grass just felt like I was free from something unexplainable, this course is the shit lol! X

  3. I was feeling really low & let down cause once there was a time when people used to go around me all the time and then suddenly I started dating a guy who bluffed me and made me completely away from the world. He made me alone and then I realised already I had left with nothing but myself I started gaining weight I became fat then now when Im on a journey to relive the real me again there are people in my own circle who make jokes on me. Hence I visited this post and I know come what may Ill always remain the best for myself and thats all what matters. Thank u for this post. Relive your inner rockstar ??